all the things I said NO to to get here
A huge part of my philosophy in life and business is saying NO to shit that doesn’t keep me in my dream life. (hello rebellious Taurus energy!) I feel like so much of what makes people miserable is that they are chasing someone else’s dream life and not boldly moving towards the life of THEIR dreams. I am so grateful to be standing in my dream life and committing to it every day with every decision I make.
I posted about this recently and someone asked, “what were some of the specific ‘no’s that got you to where you are now?”
I LOVED this question and it was super fun to think back on all of them and what got me to this point!
So here’s my list!
NO shiny money making tangents: youtube, tiktok, creating online courses, promises of “passive income”. These are SO distracting for entrepreneurs and everyone can literally swear on their favorite channel but that doesn’t mean its for me. I chose my lane and stuck to it!
NO hemming and hawing about writing the perfect email or worrying about typos. When I became a mom I literally didn’t have time for this. Either it’s messy and good enough or not getting sent. I say SEND IT!
NO new business partnerships or business acquisitions. I get approached a lot since I am in the M&A world (mergers & acquisitions) about businesses that are for sale and people think I should buy. I love a rabbit hole dream but ultimately I have said no to each one of them and have never regretted it. Going all in on myself is another one of my big philosophies.
NO collaborations with my friends that aren’t REALLY generative -either lucrative, visibility generating, or soul fulfilling. This one is SOOO hard because if I got my way I would make a million cool offerings with all my healer friends but ultimately those don’t move the needle for my business. We can just hang out as people and have fun without having it be a part of business.
NO shiny new business offerings! I created a signature offering and stuck with that. And slowly added as I went. I am constantly pumping the breaks on my own creative whims because I literally don’t have the bandwidth to execute them and only have time for the biggest money makers, not the fun whims.
NO “more is more” mentality. We stayed in our tiny 2 bedroom house for a long time while I was growing this business so we wouldn’t be maxed out financially. We don’t buy new cars or new phones or new anything if we can help it! I am a thrifting master and my kids are dressed pretty much exclusively in hand-me-downs. This has given us so much financial spaciousness.
NO workaholicism. I have lived that life and since having kids I swore I wouldn’t do that again. We don’t have our kids in outside care besides grandparents (thank god for them! they are absolutely part of the dream of creating the village!) Saying yes to more expenses just means more pressure to earn more to cover. This puts pressure on the amount of time I can work, which sometimes feels like a pinch, but mostly it feels like PERMISSION to be with my little cuties and not working all the time.
When we say YES to something we are saying NO to something else! There is always a trade off. Don’t be a passive participant in your life! You get to do whatever the hell you want! Do you feel like theres something you want to say YES to but dont know how? This is literally my expertise, helping people financially map the life of their dreams! Book a zero pressure call here if you want to talk about HOW to get you there!
